Never assume someone will change their mind or ';come around'; on their initial opinions and goals. In fact never assume someone will change.
Always support each other even if you don't completely agree. When things go wrong be supportive - don't tell the other half all the reasons why it went wrong.
Know when to stop talking, know when to speak up.
Pick your battles - are some things worth argueing over?
Don't play mind games, say how you feel.
Never let the sun set on an arguement.
Appreciate eachother.If you could offer someone getting married 1 piece of advice. What would it be?
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If you could offer someone getting married 1 piece of advice. What would it be?
Always love, honor, and be faithful to one another. There is no problem too big or too small for the two of you if you do these things.
Make sure you and your spouse to be are on the same page with respect to handling money -- credit card debt, savings, 1 or 2 incomes, retirement, spending disposable income, etc. Work all of this out BEFORE you get married and have a full understanding of the assets and debts you are each bringing to the marriage. Do not leave this to chance.
Have a prenup in effect.
NEVER go to bed mad at one another.
or NEVER hold a grudge.
DON';T
Just kidding.
no really the best adivce I can give is to trust and respect each other. Make you spouse first in your life. The rest of your friends and family come somewhere after.
Also don't focus on the negative aspects of your spouse. Just focus on the positive. Keep a notebook where you write down positive things about your spouse, when they start making you crazy take a minute to write down the things that made you fall in love- that will get you through alot.
The three A's- Abuse Adultery and Addiction trump everything I have said. None of those things will be solved with the above suggestions.
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The whole don't go to bed mad thing- I don't buy into. I have found that if you are having trouble working something out and it is time for bed- sometimes just sleeping on it is the best solution. In the morning if you are no longer focused on it, then it is probably not worth fighting over in the first place.
If you need to argue, do so naked! :)
Pre-marital counseling.
It's hard for two people, any two people no matter how much they love eachother, to get along 24 hours a day 7 days a week. You are going to have disagreements, but that doesn't mean you should run for your lawyer and the divorce papers. Marriages take work. You have to love your spouse enough to stick with them even when you're pissed at eachother. You'll learn to not only love your spouse for the things you agree on, but love them for the things you disagree on.
Think more about the upcoming marriage than the wedding day.
Are you sure you want to do this?
Patience!
I can't limit to just one so here goes. Don't put so much importance on the wedding. That's just fluff. The marriage is what's important. Respect your partner's opinions even when you don't agree with them. In times of trouble run TO your partner, not away. Every day try to remember why you fell in love with your partner, even when you're angry at them. Most importantly, talk to each other. Don't be afraid to talk about anything and everything. Nothing should be embarassing or uncomfortable. This is the best way to really know each other.
Keep God in your marriage and others out.
Don't do it if you are not willing to hang in there for the long run. TV makes it look easy. It is not. But, when you love someone you should be willing to fight for that relationship . Otherwise, don't bother.
don't go to bed angry...seems simple, but it's not.
make sure there isn't any problems or anything that might slightly bother you like he snores or something because you will get to see the side of that person that you never thought existed and if something is already bothering you before you get married then it will get worse.
Be your significant others cheerleader at all times. Support them and remember never to go to bed angry.
Are you sure you want to do this.
Never lose that ';so much in love'; feeling!! We've been married for 33 years and still love holding hands and showing affection in public just like we did when we were teenagers. We never leave the house without saying ';I love you'; and even when we talk on the phone when we're at work, we always tell each other I love you. You have to work to keep the love going. We love each other more with every passing day.
Talk TALK AND TALK ask the other person what the marrige means to them ask what they want from you. write out goals together for your marrige.
these things have helped us like crazy
The best advice given to me was - remember that the first year is the hardest because of all the changes you will go through. Don't think it's all going to be peaches and cream...
Knowing that really helped save me (and my marriage) during that first year. Even after dating for four years, travelling extensively together, and working together almost everyday during that time - there were still things that I didn't know or realize about my new husband. And vice versa! Luckily, we made it through and it has gotten better and better - and I'm still finding out things about my husband of 7 years, especially now that we have a child!
Good luck!
if all goes to pot just remember tax season and the real reason we all fall in love
Make sure you like his/her family!!! Problems surface and, yes, you are marrying the ';person';, but you get the WHOLE FAMILY TOO!
I would say dont go into this marriage with unrealistic expectations. Know that you are both human beings and arent perfect. Its going to be a bumpy road at times but remember why you said yes to getting married. You said yes because you are in love and want to share your life with someone. Be patient, and love each other. Always communicate with one another because that will help limit misunderstandings.
My one piece of advice?
Make sure they are the one. Make sure they are someone you could spend the rest of your life with and love, honor, and cherish forever.
If someone I know was getting married then I'd have to tell them, don't rush into anything, take time to make sure that is what they want. Don't let pressure be a deciding factor in their decision to get married. And I would have to congratulate them.
Don't marry the person you think you can live with - marry the person you can't live without
Know how to argue. All couple argue. Still if done correctly it isn't damaging to the marriage. First know what point you are trying to make. Second listen to the other person. Allow yourself to evaluate their point of view.Compromise as often as you can. Third when it is over, let go.
don't over look anything that bother you today.it can only get worst. talk about finance, kids, how to handle rough time.
Remember to make time for each other even when life gets crazy. Never take one another for granted.
And say I love you every day and mean it.
I know that's two, but they've worked mighty well for us!
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