Parents. If you was a promiscuous when you was younger? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?

how would you tell your teenage daughters not to have sex?





EX. If you have a baby as age 16 (no husbands/no jobs/still in school). Obviously, you were not ready for the baby. How would to teach your daughters not to do the same?





What would you do if they don't listen?


Thank you.Parents. If you was a promiscuous when you was younger? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
It's hard with teenage girls, but if she is old enough to be having sex, assume she is old enough to talk about it. Studies show that talking about sex is the number one way to keep kids safe. You may not be able to stop her from having sex, but talking about protection and helping her understand how hard it was for you would be your best bet.





Treat her like an adult, talk to her instead of lecturing her. Listen when she is talking and let her ask questions.





Encourage her to ask questions. Offer to take her to a obg/yn and get birth control. Planned Parenthood isn't too expensive. Explain how hard it was growing up with a reputation, also. Kids have trouble understanding anything that might affect them in the future, so make her future the goal of the conversation.





Don't judge her, even if you want to. Most kids will do exactly what their parents did, without realizing the consequences. You don't want her to make the same mistakes that you did, and let her know that, but let her know that she isn't a mistake and that you turned out OK, too. There is no reason to make life any harder than it already is.





Teach her ways to wait, give her hints on how to walk away from sex, even if she doesn't want to (in the moment). Remind her that boys will sometimes make it difficult and try to pressure into sex, but she has to be strong in her decision. Empower her to make the right choices.





No matter what, don't let it turn into an argument. She needs to trust you in order to talk to you. If you yell at her about anything, she will loose that trust. Then, if she does get into any trouble, she won't be able to come to you for help.





Hope this is what you were looking for. Good luck. It's a hard conversation.Parents. If you was a promiscuous when you was younger? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Sometimes lying to your children is ok, I would not tell my teenage daughter I was sleeping around, it is irresponsible.
Education. Thats the secret. Educate her on her body and what all it entails and live by example. Children do as they see. They are like sponges. Whatever they see, they emmulate. Instead of teaching what not to do, teach her how to safely do what she IS going to do.
make it clear to them that it isn't the right thing to do.... and make sure they are on birth control, and use a condom every time......... you can't stop a girl from having sex.. once she starts she isn't stopping.so bring her to the obgyn.. and get her some birth control..
I'm 21 with 3 kids.. Oldest being 8..





Use myself as an example.. Inform her that it does NOT turn out great for everyone like it has me (I have 2 bachelors degrees, my own house *well mortgage* %26amp; everything as a single mother)





Tell her she needs/deserves more out of her life..





Have her volunteer at local pregnant teenage mothers shelter.. So she knows what its all about and is also able to hear their stories %26amp; how much their boyfriends ';loved'; them until they got pregnant..





Show her statistics and other factual information on both STD's %26amp; teen pregnancy..





Heck some lifetime movies- mom at 16, shes too young %26amp; a few others were enough to scare my 17 year old cousin..
instead of telling her not to have sex i would educate her about sex. and explain to her the importance of contraception to prevent pregnancy and infections %26amp; diseases.


ultamitely if a teen wants to do something they will
It is a very important, but also a very hard cycle. My girls aren't that age yet, but I know I won't do what my parents did: not talk about sex and assume I just wouldn't have it because I was raised in a strict house. So, I hope to keep those communication lines open. My girls at 3 and 5 already know a lot because we live on a farm (free birds and bees lessons :o)) and we hope to just answer their questions openly as they grow up. Hopefully when they get to that age, they will be well instructed on all the STD's out there and how there is no way to tell if people have them and that not all people can be trusted to tell the truth. I also hope that they will be so enthused with the prospects of a career that they will know that getting pregnant would stop them in their tracks or at least slow them down.





So my top two things will be talking talking talking about STD's and second, getting them excited about a career and life without a baby and eventually life with a husband.
Make them understand that you would prefer them not to have sex, but if they do you want to make sure that you know they know the right safty precautions...if you tell ';dont do it'; they most likely will go straight to it....Use yourself as an example, and explain to them that, while you love them very much, your life could have turned out way differently, and you wouldnt have had to struggle to take care of them if you would have just waited unitl you were stable and older. If they dont want to listen, just be there for them when they need to talk, take them to the local health department to get them on birth control, and go out and buy condoms, put them in a place where they know they can find them, explain to them, that you dont want to know that they are having sex, you just want to know when the stock needs replinished..good luck
Hi Hope,





I too was promiscuous in college but then I became a Christian and changed how I viewed the worth of my body and how awesome sex can be in the context of marriage. Obviously we've all made mistakes in the past, and perhaps you could sit down with your teenage daughters and have a very open and vulnerable talk with them about both the positives and negative risks (both physically and emotionally) involved. Tell them honestly how it made you feel when you lost your virginity, and tell them how it made you feel when you were no longer with the person you were having sex with. How did it feel when you were left alone at 16 with a baby? How hard was it to raise the children alone? (I'm married with one newborn and it's challenging). Without having something bigger than them (in my case it's my relationship with God) to hold onto as a reason to not have sex, it may be hard to convince a teenager (much less an adult) to forgo the pleasures and ';fun'; of sex for a later date. If you do believe in God, show them scriptures about purity and how God rewards those who are faithful. Right now, they see themselves as invincible, but it is possible for them to see the light, especially if you own up to your past and sex a good example for them now.





Good luck and God bless,


Popi
I would just explain the ';sex talk'; the same why I would even if I wasn't promiscuous. I would talk about the complications of having sex early - PAPs, children, STD's. Then I would talk to her about having safe sex too. I don't want my children to be in the dark about the subject and make any uneducated choices.
that's me. I was pregnant in high school. that was over 20 years ago. I have two kids, B21-G13. I'm a living example of what not to do. I talk of how I had dreams, but me having a baby took first priority. I had choices, and i chose to keep my baby, and raise him. Today i strugle with making money. now my son is doing things i never could, because i was at home with a baby. when my friends went to the mall, i was at home changing diapers. Today, i envy my son. He's able to enjoy life as it was meant to be at his age. I can't stop my daughter from having sex. when she's ready to do it, all i can do is preach about safety. ';look at me'; i tell her,'; and look at your brother. who's life seems more fun?';


(no, she's not sexually active YET)


just be honest with her. tell her things happen, so try to hold off from having sex, and if not, then use your brain.
That's the problem with parents. You cant tell Ur teenager not to have sex. You tell them about sex and how to make smart choices, they have to decide when its right whether its 16 or 26 years old. I think my mom did a great job. she taught us about sex and made us feel comfortable talking to her. She never told us not to. But she taught us how to protect ourselves if we did decide to do it. That's what society needs to do. Teach how to have safe sex, not just tell youth not to do it. Communication is key. And if you cant handle the job of teaching her take her to the OBGYN and have her talk to her. And give her some reading material. And let her know its okay to have questions ad concerns and that no question is stupid. Just think back to what you wanted out of your parents when you were that age. And why you had a child that young. And change it this time around. My friend in high school mom had her first son at 16 then didn't take any steps to make sure her kids didn't. She just would try and keep them from boys/girls and ignored the topic of sex. now they each have a child and were mothers or fathers by 16. Must educated your kids. Not scare them that never works. Its a decision they have to make, it your job to make sure the have all the info to make a good decision