What can you suggest me to do? Advices please?

My hubby left home to work 13hrs away, he has being away for the past 8 months. In this time we have seeing each other for 25 days (random). I quit my full time job %26amp; went back to college. I鈥檓 a full time student,mom,dad %26amp; housewife. We have been together for the past 6 1/2 yrs %26amp; our relationship have been solid, w/ communication %26amp; trust. We talk everyday on the phone %26amp; text each other. We have 4 kids (9, 7, 3 %26amp; 1) But between school, kids school %26amp; activities ,daycare,Doctor's appt.,kids ccd classes %26amp; chores.. I feel tired by the time I go to bed ( wake @ 6 am go 2 sleep by 10pm Sunday-Friday). My oldest kids do help w/ chores,but still there are many things to do at home w/ 4 kids. He call us at the same time every day %26amp; lately when I wait anxious for him to call, when I answer my mood change like magic, I would say!I feeling in bad mood or like been angry!!..This had happened the past 2 weeks or so .I really don鈥檛 know why?? When I go to bed @ night I feel sad, depressed or so I think.. I do love my hubby, but I can鈥檛 explain why I feel like this! Before you think bad there is no one else in my mind , I verily have time to sleep or me time.. What can be wrong ?? I need advices what can I do? Why do I feel like this?.. He will not be back until Dec. 29th. The last time we saw each other was from Oct. 1-4th鈥an this be depression?? Or what can be wrong?? Some times I can't even sleep or take me time to fall asleep.. I will appreciate your advices !!





What can you suggest me to do? Advices please?
It sounds to me as if you are starting to resent your husband not being there.Talk to your husband tell that you love him and how you feel without him there,and that it is beginning to take a toll on you.That you are starting to feel depressed with all of the pressure.What can you suggest me to do? Advices please?
I would like to start by saying.... Hello :-) My name is Gina... Married for a happy 12 years and have two daughters ages 12 and 8. Husband was a Marine for 8 years.... Been through deployment, Dessart Storm, Loniness, hoplessness... and still going stronger than ever! I THANK GOD ABOVE everyday that he got out before the war in Iraq!





Now.... I can tell by your expressions how much you and your husband love each other and I am sure have a beautiful family! I know he took the job to make life eaiser for you and the kids... and for him to be away had been taking a toll on him too. I wish the both of you with love to last a lifetime!!!


And I hope my advise helps.





You say that he calls the same time each day like clock work.... is this the part of the day that you are busiest the most? If so, could he talk to the children ONLY during this time and to you VERY breifly. Explain to him that you are extremly busy at this time of the day and possible talk to the children and call you back around 10pm when the kids are sleeping so you could enjoy quality time with him on the phone. :) I also think this will help you sleep better and also help you to feel less overwhelmed. Because it's probley not the idea that you are upset... or depress but the idea that you want ever so despertly to talk to him... but ever so despertly trying to do a TRILLION things at one time... while hearing... 'mommy, mommy'!!! (LOL) I know the feeling! They need you the most while you are on the phone! (Love them to death! LOL) If talking to him during your bedtime does not help with your sleeping, (but I am sure it will) consider asking your physician for medication call Zoram -- Non-habit forming all natural sleep aid to help you fall asleep and feel refresh in the morning. And you must take 'Super B-Complex' vitaman suppliments!!! Take in the morning to help you thoughout the day for energy... also helps convert food into engergy.





I know you hate feeling like you do... because you NEED to talk to him and WANT to talk to him... but need it to be just you and him. Make sure when you and your hubby talk (alone time) make it itiment, with refounding love and admiration.... don't let it always be serious, about bills, or finances.... this could depress you BOTH! (depressing me now thinking about it now...LOL) Yes, finances are important, but don't let it become an arguement while he is away.





Once again,


I wish you and your family the BEST Life Possible! Good luck in School also! I bet you're a smart Cookie!
it sounds like ur depressed! I would be too. you have a lot on ur plate right now and really no support system.I cannot imagine having 4 kids and going to school full time! my goodness, u should get a sitter and go to a spa for the day. aftr that you need to call ur hubby and tell him how u r feeling. if ur relationship is solid then he will be understanding and you guys can work together to try and figure out what to do.
I have 4 kids as well ages 6, 8, 11 and 13.





I work full time and take care of all the day to day things such as laundry, shopping, homework...





I can understand how tired you feel, I feel that way often myself!





It isn't that your love for your husband is in question, I believe it is more that you are feeling overwhelmed with your responsibility (and it is considerable!)





When your husband is calling home to speak with the family and you feel yourself getting angry, it is probably because you envision that he is possibly sitting in a hotel room (if his company puts him up there for work) having room service and not having any of the responsibilities of children it isn't hard to see why you may have some feelings of resentment.





Going to bed feeling sad and depressed.. again I'm certain you're missing your husband and thinking of all you must accomplish come morning with the Children alone.





I would suggest perhaps cutting back on some of the kids extra curricular activities, or seek out possible car pools with other parents, if you have other family available don't be afraid to ask for a little help in maybe having one of them care for the children for a few hours so you can do something for yourself (even if its just a nap!) Go see your physician for a check up and possibly get on some medication like well butrin to help with anxiety.





Know that your hubby is working for the good of the family, understand that he I'm sure misses you and your children dearly, and he will be home soon.





Best Wishes