Just curious.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Slow,soft, light biting with your lips to hers, being kissed straight on, light tongue then a very sensual slow licking of the tongue. Slow and sensual works for me. I find it very romantic and a turn on. Good luck.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Hold your lady's face in your hands and turn her head to receive your kiss. Make sure your breath is fresh and watch the tongue- a little goes a long way. Oh one last thing, don't inhale her whole mouth into yours, kissing is supposed to be done on lips, also don't ';chew'; while kissing, a little opening and closing of your mouth is ok though.....
1. Watch what you eat. If you decide to have onions or garlic, make sure she eats them as well !!!
2. Watch your hygiene... brush and floss. Use mouthwash as well.
3. Shave before a date. ALWAYS. I mean it. Few things make women feel like kicking a man's butt....but kissing a man whose cheeks feel like sandpaper is not fun at all...! It's even worse if you are supposed to have sex later...
4. Don't be too slobbery or too noisy. Kiss with strength but with gentleness as well. (Older men know what this means. Young kids don't.)
Start by trying to connect emotionally like laughing, staring in her eyes, or stroking her hair. Then lead in with a light kiss and work your way from there
From one man to another...
Kiss there a**!
That's where women like to be kissed!
Don't hurry it.
1. Don't shove your tounge down her throat (its discusting)
2. make sure ur not all slobbery( it makes us want to barf)
3. Don't put a ton of force behind the kiss
We REALLY don't like wet kisses! Swallow your spit before a long slow one! PLEASE!!!
dont be hasty, take your time and make it tasty...
Friday, April 30, 2010
If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
Anything you wish u knew before u actually became a mom or wish somebody had told you? If there was just one thing you had to pass along...what would it be? First time mom in May!!If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
That's a toughy. I wasn't worried so much about caring for my baby as I was trying to get her OUT of me. I thought my doctor knew best and let him push me into a c-section and I regret it every time I look at my body in the mirror. Question authority. Research your delivery hospital. Get an advocate...someone who will make sure your wishes are carried out!
I know...that may not be the type of advice you were looking for...but if someone had told me what could happen when you let doctors talk you into things b/c you think they know so much...I would have done things way differently.If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
I may get lots of thumbs down for this, but I don't care. I didn't want to breastfeed for several reasons. I was nervous about not knowing exactly how much they were getting, couldn't get comfortable with doing it in public, and wanted to be able to share middle-of-the-night wakeup calls with my husband. My mom gave me and my brother formula and we turned out fine, but my MIL exclusively breastfed all four of her boys and thought her way was the only way. She threw a fit when I told her (before the baby was born) that I wasn't planning on nursing and gave me an hourlong lecture on the benefits of breastmilk. I finally agreed, mostly to shut her up, and nursed for about the first six weeks, but finally decided I didn't care what she or anyone else thought and switched to formula. My daughter didn't care, and that's all that really mattered to me. If you choose to nurse, that's great, but LET IT BE YOUR DECISION!!! Don't let yourself be railroaded by family, friends, or anyone else.
Relax %26amp; enjoy your new role. If you're tired, snooze when the baby naps and don't feel pressured to even leave your bedroom for a whole day, if needed.
Congratulations on your new arrival! Good luck!
Also, one of my favorite quotes:
';If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.'; Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis:
Trial and error. If your baby is hysterical and you don't know why, go through trial and error until you get the answer. Hungry...tried it no.....dirty nappy.....no......tired.....no.......pai鈥?ie colic, constipation, needs to burp......cold or hot?
Just go through the usual suspects and give each one a good go. Also thinking about the time might help you, for example, your baby might not take the breast or the bottle and you might think they are not hungry but they may just be fussy and need you to sing in a soothing voice or to rock them gently to take the bottle.
Sometimes when they are really hysterical it can really be upsetting, but try and keep calm and you'll find it easier to find the answer. Remember, babies are resilliant little things, they dont break!
Congrats :o) and if you have any probs with breast feeding, go to the la leche league website. www.llli.org
when u are having a stressful problem, or they want to be held all day, cry all day, etc...don't get mad or upset, just remember that that is their only way of communicating anything, and they have only been in this big, new, scary world for a short time. they recognize mom by her voice, her smell, her heartbeat, and so she's the person they feel secure with and insecure without...if you need to get a baby carrier and wear the baby...i would also strongly suggest you get a good book that explains their development as they grow so that you understand where they are mentally at any given time....' what to expect the first year' is a good one and a good reference...but there are others...patience, and love, love, patience...gl, it's wonderful to feel that bond with that tiny part of you in your arms..
My mom told me one thing and boy was I glad I listened! She told me NOT to be quiet when the baby was born. She said not to fuss about the baby being asleep and go on about my Business. That was the biggest help of my life! When babies are small the only time you have to do anything is when they are sleeping. I could vacuum the room while my son was asleep and he wouldn't wake up. This is my favorite piece of advice because believe me you are going to need to do things around the house that make noise! My children are now 7 and 9 and the best sleepers! Good luck hun
My advice would be to listen to all the advice you will receive, but just take bits and pieces of what you want out of it, don't expect that that there are right or wrong answers... I have a 10 week old and being the control freak that I am, i was really stressed for the first couple of weeks as I expected that there should be answers as to why he was or was not doing certain things at certain times, and this wasn't the case, so go with your instint and its usually right, and don't get too caught up in what the ';experts'; say is right or wrong, in theory its pretty simple, for the first few weeks all they want is food and love and clean clothes, so if you can give your new baby that, then thats all that matters!
Kids are very impressionable be careful what you say and do around them
Also fears can be instilled at any age, try to not scare them in any way you dont want you kid to be outrageously afraid of ridiculous things when they get older
like im afraid of having empty space under my bed i guess you could say im afraid of the boogeyman because of a very harmless trick my mom played on my when i was 8 years old i have to now sleep on a frameless bed
Prepare to have vomit, poop, and pee on multiple surfaces such as: couches, beds, floors, chairs, carpet, bathtub, including yourself (clothes, hands, everything).
And as soon as you clean it up (especially vomit) they do again all over the bed, clothes and in their hair.
Most vomit fits happen in the middle of the night.
I took a Child Development class so the number one thing we learn is Never ever ignore your childs crys. even if you think they just want attention, pay attention. It is Erikson's first stage of development of Trust VS Mistrust. you want to build that trust with your baby and soon the baby will start to trust others. that is one of the most important thing you can learn from erikson. look him up and see the other but this sets off a chain reaction. Trust me on this. my major is child development
Everyone will probably tell you this one, but it's important: sleep when the baby sleeps! Everything else can wait!
I wish someone would have told me that during pregnancy my feet would get bigger and stay that way. After 3 kids, my feet are so wide, I have to buy men's 4E width athletic shoes. It's not easy to find a 7 1/2 4E!
Prepare yourself for a total life change... i didnt even notice until now (my son is 4 months old) but i only tend to hang around other friends that have babies... everything you do is revolved around your baby... everyone knows this while being pregnant but you dont realise the extent until you have bub... so my advice would be to prepare your mental state of mind. expect to stay home more...
oh and babies dont tend to have a routine until they are 6-8 weeks old... the first month or so is learning to know your baby. and all they do for the first month is SLEEP! my son slept so much i was bored!!
Congratulation!
Just following your instinct when taking care of your baby.
Take every minutes with your baby with great pleasure. You may find some ideas about preparing things for a newborn in my blog here below.
Again, congratulation!
Labor isn't nearly as scary, hard, or painful as you think it's going to be.
I was absolutely terrified of going into labor, but as soon as you see your baby for the first time, you realize that every single bit of fear, pain, etc. was completely worth it!
Don't be pressured into having visitors or going out, and don't be afraid to accept help if you need it. Sleep and rest whenever you can cos you're going to be soo tired! Congrats :)
Do what works for you and your family. I had a hard time with this and tried to do what I thought I should do, rather than what worked for me. You are Mom, do what you think is right.
Trust your own judgment. Dont let others opinions (like the mil) get to you! It will be really hard at first but gets better and is soooo worth it. Congrats!!!
Read the book
'I refuse to raise a brat' by Mary lu Rhennercartridge
That's a toughy. I wasn't worried so much about caring for my baby as I was trying to get her OUT of me. I thought my doctor knew best and let him push me into a c-section and I regret it every time I look at my body in the mirror. Question authority. Research your delivery hospital. Get an advocate...someone who will make sure your wishes are carried out!
I know...that may not be the type of advice you were looking for...but if someone had told me what could happen when you let doctors talk you into things b/c you think they know so much...I would have done things way differently.If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
I may get lots of thumbs down for this, but I don't care. I didn't want to breastfeed for several reasons. I was nervous about not knowing exactly how much they were getting, couldn't get comfortable with doing it in public, and wanted to be able to share middle-of-the-night wakeup calls with my husband. My mom gave me and my brother formula and we turned out fine, but my MIL exclusively breastfed all four of her boys and thought her way was the only way. She threw a fit when I told her (before the baby was born) that I wasn't planning on nursing and gave me an hourlong lecture on the benefits of breastmilk. I finally agreed, mostly to shut her up, and nursed for about the first six weeks, but finally decided I didn't care what she or anyone else thought and switched to formula. My daughter didn't care, and that's all that really mattered to me. If you choose to nurse, that's great, but LET IT BE YOUR DECISION!!! Don't let yourself be railroaded by family, friends, or anyone else.
Relax %26amp; enjoy your new role. If you're tired, snooze when the baby naps and don't feel pressured to even leave your bedroom for a whole day, if needed.
Congratulations on your new arrival! Good luck!
Also, one of my favorite quotes:
';If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.'; Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis:
Trial and error. If your baby is hysterical and you don't know why, go through trial and error until you get the answer. Hungry...tried it no.....dirty nappy.....no......tired.....no.......pai鈥?ie colic, constipation, needs to burp......cold or hot?
Just go through the usual suspects and give each one a good go. Also thinking about the time might help you, for example, your baby might not take the breast or the bottle and you might think they are not hungry but they may just be fussy and need you to sing in a soothing voice or to rock them gently to take the bottle.
Sometimes when they are really hysterical it can really be upsetting, but try and keep calm and you'll find it easier to find the answer. Remember, babies are resilliant little things, they dont break!
Congrats :o) and if you have any probs with breast feeding, go to the la leche league website. www.llli.org
when u are having a stressful problem, or they want to be held all day, cry all day, etc...don't get mad or upset, just remember that that is their only way of communicating anything, and they have only been in this big, new, scary world for a short time. they recognize mom by her voice, her smell, her heartbeat, and so she's the person they feel secure with and insecure without...if you need to get a baby carrier and wear the baby...i would also strongly suggest you get a good book that explains their development as they grow so that you understand where they are mentally at any given time....' what to expect the first year' is a good one and a good reference...but there are others...patience, and love, love, patience...gl, it's wonderful to feel that bond with that tiny part of you in your arms..
My mom told me one thing and boy was I glad I listened! She told me NOT to be quiet when the baby was born. She said not to fuss about the baby being asleep and go on about my Business. That was the biggest help of my life! When babies are small the only time you have to do anything is when they are sleeping. I could vacuum the room while my son was asleep and he wouldn't wake up. This is my favorite piece of advice because believe me you are going to need to do things around the house that make noise! My children are now 7 and 9 and the best sleepers! Good luck hun
My advice would be to listen to all the advice you will receive, but just take bits and pieces of what you want out of it, don't expect that that there are right or wrong answers... I have a 10 week old and being the control freak that I am, i was really stressed for the first couple of weeks as I expected that there should be answers as to why he was or was not doing certain things at certain times, and this wasn't the case, so go with your instint and its usually right, and don't get too caught up in what the ';experts'; say is right or wrong, in theory its pretty simple, for the first few weeks all they want is food and love and clean clothes, so if you can give your new baby that, then thats all that matters!
Kids are very impressionable be careful what you say and do around them
Also fears can be instilled at any age, try to not scare them in any way you dont want you kid to be outrageously afraid of ridiculous things when they get older
like im afraid of having empty space under my bed i guess you could say im afraid of the boogeyman because of a very harmless trick my mom played on my when i was 8 years old i have to now sleep on a frameless bed
Prepare to have vomit, poop, and pee on multiple surfaces such as: couches, beds, floors, chairs, carpet, bathtub, including yourself (clothes, hands, everything).
And as soon as you clean it up (especially vomit) they do again all over the bed, clothes and in their hair.
Most vomit fits happen in the middle of the night.
I took a Child Development class so the number one thing we learn is Never ever ignore your childs crys. even if you think they just want attention, pay attention. It is Erikson's first stage of development of Trust VS Mistrust. you want to build that trust with your baby and soon the baby will start to trust others. that is one of the most important thing you can learn from erikson. look him up and see the other but this sets off a chain reaction. Trust me on this. my major is child development
Everyone will probably tell you this one, but it's important: sleep when the baby sleeps! Everything else can wait!
I wish someone would have told me that during pregnancy my feet would get bigger and stay that way. After 3 kids, my feet are so wide, I have to buy men's 4E width athletic shoes. It's not easy to find a 7 1/2 4E!
Prepare yourself for a total life change... i didnt even notice until now (my son is 4 months old) but i only tend to hang around other friends that have babies... everything you do is revolved around your baby... everyone knows this while being pregnant but you dont realise the extent until you have bub... so my advice would be to prepare your mental state of mind. expect to stay home more...
oh and babies dont tend to have a routine until they are 6-8 weeks old... the first month or so is learning to know your baby. and all they do for the first month is SLEEP! my son slept so much i was bored!!
Congratulation!
Just following your instinct when taking care of your baby.
Take every minutes with your baby with great pleasure. You may find some ideas about preparing things for a newborn in my blog here below.
Again, congratulation!
Labor isn't nearly as scary, hard, or painful as you think it's going to be.
I was absolutely terrified of going into labor, but as soon as you see your baby for the first time, you realize that every single bit of fear, pain, etc. was completely worth it!
Don't be pressured into having visitors or going out, and don't be afraid to accept help if you need it. Sleep and rest whenever you can cos you're going to be soo tired! Congrats :)
Do what works for you and your family. I had a hard time with this and tried to do what I thought I should do, rather than what worked for me. You are Mom, do what you think is right.
Trust your own judgment. Dont let others opinions (like the mil) get to you! It will be really hard at first but gets better and is soooo worth it. Congrats!!!
Read the book
'I refuse to raise a brat' by Mary lu Rhenner
If you could give life advice to a 16 year old what would it be?
im sixteen %26amp; i was wondering if you had any life advice..everyone who is older always says ';i wish i knew that when i was 16'; so can you tell me stuff lol.idk if you get what i mean though.It can be on school friends life money family ANYTHING!If you could give life advice to a 16 year old what would it be?
You have your whole life in front of you. Focus on your education and have enjoy your teenage years. Don't take anything for granted. Make time for God in your life as well. ----------------------------------------…If you could give life advice to a 16 year old what would it be?
1. Don't go to college right away unless you can pay for it. But get good grades in high school regardless.
2. Go to college to learn about what you want to learn about, not necessarily to start a career. Alot of people have jobs that are completely different than their degrees
3. The nerdy guys are usually the most interesting guys
4. Four years from now high school won't matter
5. Use protection, and have sex only as often as you're comfortable with. Don't assume that a guy will stick around or like you just because you let him in the, um, happy zone.
6. Somewhat related to #5 but guys will not change, especially as they get older. No, not even for you.
7. Have a good time, don't sweat the small stuff, and any other myriad of info you can also get from a motivational poster with a cat on it.
Think about the choices you make now. If you think about it all you really have to do is ask yourself one question. In ten years, will I look back at this event and say ';wow, I wish I had done that ';or will you look at the event and say';wow, I wish I hadn't done that.';
To be a little more specific and example would be cigarettes. In ten years when you might be trying to quit smoking because they are so expensive and probably completely illegal by then how would you answer that question? Or will you be in a dead end job going ';Wow, I wish I had stayed in school.';
So the best advice is to just take a minute to think about how your actions now may change your life later and you will usually find the right path on your own. Most of the people who say that didn't take time to think about the results of the actions they took (or didn't take.)
well, im 20. I am glad to not be 16 anymore. It is so nice being in college and out of high school. just do well in school so that you can go to a good college and not be at a junior college like me. Also, choose your friends carefully. i have been backstabbed so many times by my ';Best friends'; most of them have hooked up with or tried to hook up wiht my boyfriend then harass and spread rumors about me. i was given the advice to have one or two very close gf;s and that as you get older you lose most of your friends and you only end up with the one or two who will stick with you forever. AND use a condom. dont get HPV look up HPV.1 out of 2 men have it. 8 out of 10 women have it. it causes cervical cancer. get the shot NOW. i wish i knew that when i was 16...
Be aware of the fact you don't know as much about life as you think you do. And people trying to talk you out of doing something are usually right. But you can never admit that. Be patient in most everything that's important in life, you have two outcomes, you screw everything up and you get somebody to rescue you. or you really follow that little bit of doubt you are trying to bury, and don't do it to begin with. Most people have a hunch or the feeling somethings not quite right , You can't lose anything from following the hunch.
don't take anyone in your life for granted, because they are there one day, and gone the next
Also... don't take school for granted either, make the most of it, because as soon as you leave you wish you hadn't... and dont take your friends for granted... enoy every waking moment you are around them, life is too short to fight
Life is not all about having sex. Kids every day are having sex when they don't even know what it is. Don't be too much in a hurry to ';grow up.'; Look towards the positives of everything and don't get too upset when things turn out badly for you, because being angry never solves a problem. When you want something bad enough, you will get it eventually, so instead of fearing the bad, desire the good. Don't do what everyone else is doing and don't fall under peer pressure. Only do something when YOU TRULY want to do it, which includes sex, drugs, and drinking. If you want to do it, then do it, but be prepared for whatever consequences come after. I'm not saying there will be, but you never know. Live life optimistically. Keep an open mind about everything and don't be judgmental. Be willing to learn new things and try something new. Learn to live and live to learn.
If you want happiness and you think of happiness, you will have it. ';Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.'; W. Clement Stone
Its not as bad as you think
Even though you think you have no freedom, you DO and this IS the best time of life
Love your body and skin now, even if you hate it you will realise when you are older how good it was
Take care of your skin, dont over tan, moisturize.If you dont you might look like a leather boot not sexy ever.
Hes not worth it if he makes you crazy/cry/isn't interested.
Say no to drugs that you dont know what they are, if you dont know exactly what it is dont touch it
You know that thing that is so unfair and you hate your parents for?
You probably wont remember in 6 years
Unless they are very crap your parents DO want you to have fun, they just want you to be safe so dont be too harsh on them
Act your age, be you, enjoy life while your young. Dont grow up so fast just try to make your experiences as memories and not mistakes or regrets. Have fun live it up but also be smart with it. Choose your friends wisely and realize that everyone is not your friend because we have people that are out to use you and just be a hater surround yourself with real people not people that is gonna be making you do stuff you not comfortable with and always getting you in trouble. Think before you act. Pay attention in class lol at least sometimes try to because you gonna wish you did when you graduate even though a lot of us forget what we learned in class. Make your high school years fun! Dont be in a rush to graduate because when you do you gonna miss out on all the good memories with your classmates. Just be you and have fun.
Stay in school, and do your best. Don't try to be something you're not. Be the best you can be, but don't let it get to your head. Be confident. Don't do anything until you are ready. Let every choice you make be your own. Don't depend too much on money. Always care for others and be kind, it will always come out best for you. Stay away from problems whenever you can and stay on the right path. Not many teenagers like to get advice, so that shows you are open minded, which is a very good thing.
Well, I'm 17, and I just graduated. Two weeks out of high school and I'm already having regrets, sad right? Sure I had decent marks and went out all the time. I just wish I could have been better friends with certain people. It's coming to that point of my life where I know I have to let my friends go out and do what they want with their lives, but I'm finding it hard to let them go. So I sit here, wishing I was 16 again so I could redo the last year of my life, and do it right. Don't be like me and feel that my last year was missing something, make it the best year of your life :)
Really you should soak up everything. You have enough trust that you can do ALMOST anything you want to do, and little enough responsibility to be able to do ALMOST anything you want to do. Also, I know this sucks but do good in school. I have to go back to high school in September because my marks aren't good enough to get into the university programme I want to go into. I'm 20. I wish I knew that when I was your age...
There's so many things one could say.
Stay in school, learn all you can. The more the better, knowledge is true power!
Don't fall for the short term delights in life. More often than not you'll find that just because it's good to you, it's not always good for you.
No matter how life kicks you around, always be good in your heart. Keeping goodness alive inside your heart gives you strength that others can't take away.
It's human nature to look for the bad in a person or situation before they look for the good. Look beyond that and see the good!
Honor your elders, talk with them, you'll be surprised at the things you can learn.
Never listen when some one says something is impossible because it's not! If that were true, I wouldn't be here to answer your question.
In your heart is the answer to what you want and desire in life. Pick a path and throw yourself into it 100%. Stick with it and NEVER give up.
When it comes to guys, never give yourself up to the dick, ***** are a dime a dozen. Only give yourself away to a heart that is true!
The biggest obstacle one faces in life is their own fear. Face them and conquer them. Never let your fears hold you back. More often than not you'll find your fears weren't worth fearing in the first place.
Never lose control of your life or mind. Drugs and alcohol will cause you to lose both.
I hope these will help you as they have helped me in my own life. And thank you for being a person who took the time to ask a serious question on YA. I am happy to answer it!
I wish when I was 16 that someone would have told me that dropping out of school would cost me my kids and home,
Point even if school life is hard with bullies bulling you, falling your classes, not making the cheerleading team or football team. Things will get better. The sooner you start to correct the wrong in your life.
If you don't correct them now, you will have to pay for it when your older.
Start studying, make good grades and then try out for the team. Stand up to a bully by killing them with kindness, Act as if it dose not phase you or that you give a care.Soon they will leave you alone.
Smile and wave when they pass by. Act as if they are you bestfriend. Point they get mad that you waved at them, Just go up and hugh them and say hey bubby how did you like the pasrty last night? Point embarrass them in a kind way.
Fix the problems in your life now, trust in the Lord and put him first and your life will improve.
Don't have sex,do drugs, or go to those crazy parties where you know someone will slip something into your drink in high school.
Don't drop out. Will totally ruin you if you want a decent job.
Stay true to your friends - don't act ';popular'; because they will ***** about you most likely and then your old friends won't take you back
Get good grades but retain a social life. School isn't everything but DO remember that good colleges want you to belong to extra things like organizations, or helping charity, etc.
Try new things before you have no time to try them in college. Try dancing - hip/hop, jazz, etc.
Stay true to yourself and morals. Don't go smoke because it's ';cool';. You will so many of them die early because they screwed up their lungs.
Sorry it's so long. But there's alot to know!
Learn who you are.
I'm incredibly serious.
Learn who you are and don't live off of what other people make you.
I'm not saying bullshit about being ';under the influence';,
or ';don't go mainstream';,
but learn to appreciate yourself and your mind
because when you're that young, that's the most precious thing you can develop.
Also,
never stop learning.
You can stop going to school and never goto college
but never stop learning. especially things you like.
It's important- every last bit of it.
Don't follow the crowd. Make your own decisions based on good common sense.
Don't do drugs. Don't sleep with anyone till you have a ring on your finger and are married. Don't live with a guy.
Don't think because you waited to have sex till you got married you missed anything.
Love your parents, and do good to them.
Take care of them in old age, and love them.
Love God and go to church, get involved with helping people.
Then i tell you again.
I wish i was your age and know what i do know now. lol
I've heard this so much when i was younger, and i still hear that from older people.
And despite other people giving me advice, i would barely follow them in practice. Cause you only learn when you live it. You can't truly learn things in advance just from others advice, that's the sad true.
And this is my advice :x
This is a REALLY good question. I would say thaat...the things that seem like a SUPER big deal right now are not going to be a few years down the line. Don't stress out about things like school, friends, or boys because I promise you, these problems are going to be so insignificant down the line. I remember in high school getting so worked up about something bitchy a friend had said about me, or a boy ignoring me or anything like that but now I am laughing at myself. I caused myself so much more stress than was really necessary. If I could go back in time I would have tried enjoying life more because it is a really special age to be at and you should take full advantage of these years. Also, I read in your profile that you are really scared of losing your friends after high school. I have one year of university under my belt and when I came back home in April, nothing had changed. Your friends will always be there if you love them. I was super worried about that, but it wasn't like I thought it would be. My best friend is STILL my all-time bestie, not going to change EVER, and out group of friends has not changed at all. Pleeease don't worry about this! I cried A LOT last summer thinking that it would be my last time with friends. Ahhh such a good question!
I'm also 16. All I can say from what I've learned/seen through my years in life is to keep your head up and ears open. You don't know what each day will bring so being prepared is the only thing you can do. Don't do drugs ect.. all the mommy and daddy things you've heard all your life. that's the only advice one can give. No one knows what we'll say 30 years from now when we turn back saying ';I wish I knew that when i was 16';. When we do it'll be completely different from what they said to us.
Wow, intresting question. There are so many things to say but not enough time or room to say them. I could say that you have the right attitude, search for excellence. Enlightenment is not just for the bhuddists. Know this: the answer is simple, it exists all around you and it will all make sense in the end. Try to see the world for what it REALLY is and not just your perception of it.
other intresting things to ponder: there is 360 degrees behind the truth, each one unique in its own way. The key to world peace lies with each individual. thats all i got.
live life to the fullest! don't worry about being the coolest. always think positively. do your best in whatever you're doing. think about your future. RESPECT YOURSELF %26amp; your body. don't obsess over any guy. don't let anybody tell you who you are or who you're supposed to be. know what you deserve %26amp; don't you dare settle for less. practice good habits. respect your elders. take any good chance you get. volunteer. you're young still, don't be too serious. smile more often :)
WEAR A CONDOM hahah u dont want any kids. if u do drugs make sure u no the side effects. if u drink dont drink and drive. make sure u no were your dudes been. do good in school go to college and get a good job that pays wells. friends are forever but boyfriend/girlsfriends are just temp. in life u only got 2 things family and religion. life is tough and if u get down and sad if u mess up dont worry get up and try again. cutting n stuff dont solve any problems it just causes more. yah thats all i got. hope this helps
welll as a 17 year old i do :p
just dont take your freedom for granted.
try your hardest in school, who cares if you'll look stupid. the people who dont try will look the most stupid in the long run.
dont stress out about little things.
dont do stupid things like drink. youve got the whole of your life for that.
it's not worth it.
dont be pressured to do what you dont want to.
trust your mum, they do know whats best for the most part. they are just looking out for you :)
hmmmmmm what else?
i wish i knew a while ago that just trust your gut instincts, theyre ALWAYS right.
think about things fully before you do it.
and remember, whatever is meant to be will be. fate is awesome :)
i think thats it :)
Life sucks, no matter who you are or what you have. So, do not feel that you are unfairly put upon, or that your life could be better if only you had this or that. Rich people hate their lives as much as the rest of us. The only way to combat this problem is to live by design, not chance. Don't wait for your ship to come in, because it will leave you sitting on the dock until you die. If you want anything, you have to get up and make it happen. Your life will be a good as you make it, but remember, life still sucks. You will never come to a point that you cannot find anything to whine about. You must simply choose not to whine.
Go on get your College education even if you have to claw your way through by your fingernails..
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If you have any thoughts about joining the service darn sure get your B.S. degree first and take ROTC, in some form so you can go in as an officer.
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Know I am going to get thumbs down from the guys for this one:
Don't do it just because all your friends are doing it.
Guys go out with easy girls for one reason and it ain't marriage and kids.
And if a guy is telling you he loves but blah, blah blah just remember we were using those same lines in girls when I was a teenager to get girls in bed with us.
Steer clear of brown nosers, back stabbers and suck a$$es: They aren't your friends. They'll knife you in the back in a heart beat.
live life like you have no tomorrow, dont have regrets, dont worry about what will happen if.... just do it and have fun. you can only experiment whe you are the age you are, when you grow up you will have a job to worry about and too many risk factors to go with it..,
ok what i think u should do is chill. ur sixteen dnt worry about jobs focus on school. oh nd get involved in it like sports nd stuff. k hangout with friends and meet new ones. dnt get caught up in a relationship cus no matter what iits most likely gonna end. so stay single and keep them boyz wanting some haha. nd if ur a virgin dnt let sum dickweed get in ur pants unless u know for a fact he's the one. dnt get fooled. umm if u wanna kno more let me kno kk
I think about these things throughout my daily life, no matter what it is these these always apply.
';God will never give you anything you cant handle';.
';Live, Love, Laugh';
Don't regret anything because at the time its what you wanted.
You cant live your life without making mistakes, remember them, learn from them and apply them in your future.
Be independent, don't wait for things to happen, make them happen for yourself.
You are responsible for your happiness no one else so don't let people steal your joy.
Don't be afraid of life but use caution when necessary.
Follow your instincts and watch for red flags.
Question everything, including authority.
Don't believe everything you hear.
Let the people you love know that you love them.
Be happy with yourself before you become attached to another.
Do the right thing.
Life.
it goes on.
people die, people cry. babies are born and fortune 500 companies fail.
Everyday is a gift, even if it sucks @ss.
dont make promises you cant keep. they'll haunt you in the end.
no one is perfect, so give them a second chance. forgive but dont forget. so you wont be mistreated. if someone isnt treating you right, seperate yourself from that person.
surround yourself with the ones you love. and always be laughing.
You have your whole life in front of you. Focus on your education and have enjoy your teenage years. Don't take anything for granted. Make time for God in your life as well. ----------------------------------------…If you could give life advice to a 16 year old what would it be?
1. Don't go to college right away unless you can pay for it. But get good grades in high school regardless.
2. Go to college to learn about what you want to learn about, not necessarily to start a career. Alot of people have jobs that are completely different than their degrees
3. The nerdy guys are usually the most interesting guys
4. Four years from now high school won't matter
5. Use protection, and have sex only as often as you're comfortable with. Don't assume that a guy will stick around or like you just because you let him in the, um, happy zone.
6. Somewhat related to #5 but guys will not change, especially as they get older. No, not even for you.
7. Have a good time, don't sweat the small stuff, and any other myriad of info you can also get from a motivational poster with a cat on it.
Think about the choices you make now. If you think about it all you really have to do is ask yourself one question. In ten years, will I look back at this event and say ';wow, I wish I had done that ';or will you look at the event and say';wow, I wish I hadn't done that.';
To be a little more specific and example would be cigarettes. In ten years when you might be trying to quit smoking because they are so expensive and probably completely illegal by then how would you answer that question? Or will you be in a dead end job going ';Wow, I wish I had stayed in school.';
So the best advice is to just take a minute to think about how your actions now may change your life later and you will usually find the right path on your own. Most of the people who say that didn't take time to think about the results of the actions they took (or didn't take.)
well, im 20. I am glad to not be 16 anymore. It is so nice being in college and out of high school. just do well in school so that you can go to a good college and not be at a junior college like me. Also, choose your friends carefully. i have been backstabbed so many times by my ';Best friends'; most of them have hooked up with or tried to hook up wiht my boyfriend then harass and spread rumors about me. i was given the advice to have one or two very close gf;s and that as you get older you lose most of your friends and you only end up with the one or two who will stick with you forever. AND use a condom. dont get HPV look up HPV.1 out of 2 men have it. 8 out of 10 women have it. it causes cervical cancer. get the shot NOW. i wish i knew that when i was 16...
Be aware of the fact you don't know as much about life as you think you do. And people trying to talk you out of doing something are usually right. But you can never admit that. Be patient in most everything that's important in life, you have two outcomes, you screw everything up and you get somebody to rescue you. or you really follow that little bit of doubt you are trying to bury, and don't do it to begin with. Most people have a hunch or the feeling somethings not quite right , You can't lose anything from following the hunch.
don't take anyone in your life for granted, because they are there one day, and gone the next
Also... don't take school for granted either, make the most of it, because as soon as you leave you wish you hadn't... and dont take your friends for granted... enoy every waking moment you are around them, life is too short to fight
Life is not all about having sex. Kids every day are having sex when they don't even know what it is. Don't be too much in a hurry to ';grow up.'; Look towards the positives of everything and don't get too upset when things turn out badly for you, because being angry never solves a problem. When you want something bad enough, you will get it eventually, so instead of fearing the bad, desire the good. Don't do what everyone else is doing and don't fall under peer pressure. Only do something when YOU TRULY want to do it, which includes sex, drugs, and drinking. If you want to do it, then do it, but be prepared for whatever consequences come after. I'm not saying there will be, but you never know. Live life optimistically. Keep an open mind about everything and don't be judgmental. Be willing to learn new things and try something new. Learn to live and live to learn.
If you want happiness and you think of happiness, you will have it. ';Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.'; W. Clement Stone
Its not as bad as you think
Even though you think you have no freedom, you DO and this IS the best time of life
Love your body and skin now, even if you hate it you will realise when you are older how good it was
Take care of your skin, dont over tan, moisturize.If you dont you might look like a leather boot not sexy ever.
Hes not worth it if he makes you crazy/cry/isn't interested.
Say no to drugs that you dont know what they are, if you dont know exactly what it is dont touch it
You know that thing that is so unfair and you hate your parents for?
You probably wont remember in 6 years
Unless they are very crap your parents DO want you to have fun, they just want you to be safe so dont be too harsh on them
Act your age, be you, enjoy life while your young. Dont grow up so fast just try to make your experiences as memories and not mistakes or regrets. Have fun live it up but also be smart with it. Choose your friends wisely and realize that everyone is not your friend because we have people that are out to use you and just be a hater surround yourself with real people not people that is gonna be making you do stuff you not comfortable with and always getting you in trouble. Think before you act. Pay attention in class lol at least sometimes try to because you gonna wish you did when you graduate even though a lot of us forget what we learned in class. Make your high school years fun! Dont be in a rush to graduate because when you do you gonna miss out on all the good memories with your classmates. Just be you and have fun.
Stay in school, and do your best. Don't try to be something you're not. Be the best you can be, but don't let it get to your head. Be confident. Don't do anything until you are ready. Let every choice you make be your own. Don't depend too much on money. Always care for others and be kind, it will always come out best for you. Stay away from problems whenever you can and stay on the right path. Not many teenagers like to get advice, so that shows you are open minded, which is a very good thing.
Well, I'm 17, and I just graduated. Two weeks out of high school and I'm already having regrets, sad right? Sure I had decent marks and went out all the time. I just wish I could have been better friends with certain people. It's coming to that point of my life where I know I have to let my friends go out and do what they want with their lives, but I'm finding it hard to let them go. So I sit here, wishing I was 16 again so I could redo the last year of my life, and do it right. Don't be like me and feel that my last year was missing something, make it the best year of your life :)
Really you should soak up everything. You have enough trust that you can do ALMOST anything you want to do, and little enough responsibility to be able to do ALMOST anything you want to do. Also, I know this sucks but do good in school. I have to go back to high school in September because my marks aren't good enough to get into the university programme I want to go into. I'm 20. I wish I knew that when I was your age...
There's so many things one could say.
Stay in school, learn all you can. The more the better, knowledge is true power!
Don't fall for the short term delights in life. More often than not you'll find that just because it's good to you, it's not always good for you.
No matter how life kicks you around, always be good in your heart. Keeping goodness alive inside your heart gives you strength that others can't take away.
It's human nature to look for the bad in a person or situation before they look for the good. Look beyond that and see the good!
Honor your elders, talk with them, you'll be surprised at the things you can learn.
Never listen when some one says something is impossible because it's not! If that were true, I wouldn't be here to answer your question.
In your heart is the answer to what you want and desire in life. Pick a path and throw yourself into it 100%. Stick with it and NEVER give up.
When it comes to guys, never give yourself up to the dick, ***** are a dime a dozen. Only give yourself away to a heart that is true!
The biggest obstacle one faces in life is their own fear. Face them and conquer them. Never let your fears hold you back. More often than not you'll find your fears weren't worth fearing in the first place.
Never lose control of your life or mind. Drugs and alcohol will cause you to lose both.
I hope these will help you as they have helped me in my own life. And thank you for being a person who took the time to ask a serious question on YA. I am happy to answer it!
I wish when I was 16 that someone would have told me that dropping out of school would cost me my kids and home,
Point even if school life is hard with bullies bulling you, falling your classes, not making the cheerleading team or football team. Things will get better. The sooner you start to correct the wrong in your life.
If you don't correct them now, you will have to pay for it when your older.
Start studying, make good grades and then try out for the team. Stand up to a bully by killing them with kindness, Act as if it dose not phase you or that you give a care.Soon they will leave you alone.
Smile and wave when they pass by. Act as if they are you bestfriend. Point they get mad that you waved at them, Just go up and hugh them and say hey bubby how did you like the pasrty last night? Point embarrass them in a kind way.
Fix the problems in your life now, trust in the Lord and put him first and your life will improve.
Don't have sex,do drugs, or go to those crazy parties where you know someone will slip something into your drink in high school.
Don't drop out. Will totally ruin you if you want a decent job.
Stay true to your friends - don't act ';popular'; because they will ***** about you most likely and then your old friends won't take you back
Get good grades but retain a social life. School isn't everything but DO remember that good colleges want you to belong to extra things like organizations, or helping charity, etc.
Try new things before you have no time to try them in college. Try dancing - hip/hop, jazz, etc.
Stay true to yourself and morals. Don't go smoke because it's ';cool';. You will so many of them die early because they screwed up their lungs.
Sorry it's so long. But there's alot to know!
Learn who you are.
I'm incredibly serious.
Learn who you are and don't live off of what other people make you.
I'm not saying bullshit about being ';under the influence';,
or ';don't go mainstream';,
but learn to appreciate yourself and your mind
because when you're that young, that's the most precious thing you can develop.
Also,
never stop learning.
You can stop going to school and never goto college
but never stop learning. especially things you like.
It's important- every last bit of it.
Don't follow the crowd. Make your own decisions based on good common sense.
Don't do drugs. Don't sleep with anyone till you have a ring on your finger and are married. Don't live with a guy.
Don't think because you waited to have sex till you got married you missed anything.
Love your parents, and do good to them.
Take care of them in old age, and love them.
Love God and go to church, get involved with helping people.
Then i tell you again.
I wish i was your age and know what i do know now. lol
I've heard this so much when i was younger, and i still hear that from older people.
And despite other people giving me advice, i would barely follow them in practice. Cause you only learn when you live it. You can't truly learn things in advance just from others advice, that's the sad true.
And this is my advice :x
This is a REALLY good question. I would say thaat...the things that seem like a SUPER big deal right now are not going to be a few years down the line. Don't stress out about things like school, friends, or boys because I promise you, these problems are going to be so insignificant down the line. I remember in high school getting so worked up about something bitchy a friend had said about me, or a boy ignoring me or anything like that but now I am laughing at myself. I caused myself so much more stress than was really necessary. If I could go back in time I would have tried enjoying life more because it is a really special age to be at and you should take full advantage of these years. Also, I read in your profile that you are really scared of losing your friends after high school. I have one year of university under my belt and when I came back home in April, nothing had changed. Your friends will always be there if you love them. I was super worried about that, but it wasn't like I thought it would be. My best friend is STILL my all-time bestie, not going to change EVER, and out group of friends has not changed at all. Pleeease don't worry about this! I cried A LOT last summer thinking that it would be my last time with friends. Ahhh such a good question!
I'm also 16. All I can say from what I've learned/seen through my years in life is to keep your head up and ears open. You don't know what each day will bring so being prepared is the only thing you can do. Don't do drugs ect.. all the mommy and daddy things you've heard all your life. that's the only advice one can give. No one knows what we'll say 30 years from now when we turn back saying ';I wish I knew that when i was 16';. When we do it'll be completely different from what they said to us.
Wow, intresting question. There are so many things to say but not enough time or room to say them. I could say that you have the right attitude, search for excellence. Enlightenment is not just for the bhuddists. Know this: the answer is simple, it exists all around you and it will all make sense in the end. Try to see the world for what it REALLY is and not just your perception of it.
other intresting things to ponder: there is 360 degrees behind the truth, each one unique in its own way. The key to world peace lies with each individual. thats all i got.
live life to the fullest! don't worry about being the coolest. always think positively. do your best in whatever you're doing. think about your future. RESPECT YOURSELF %26amp; your body. don't obsess over any guy. don't let anybody tell you who you are or who you're supposed to be. know what you deserve %26amp; don't you dare settle for less. practice good habits. respect your elders. take any good chance you get. volunteer. you're young still, don't be too serious. smile more often :)
WEAR A CONDOM hahah u dont want any kids. if u do drugs make sure u no the side effects. if u drink dont drink and drive. make sure u no were your dudes been. do good in school go to college and get a good job that pays wells. friends are forever but boyfriend/girlsfriends are just temp. in life u only got 2 things family and religion. life is tough and if u get down and sad if u mess up dont worry get up and try again. cutting n stuff dont solve any problems it just causes more. yah thats all i got. hope this helps
welll as a 17 year old i do :p
just dont take your freedom for granted.
try your hardest in school, who cares if you'll look stupid. the people who dont try will look the most stupid in the long run.
dont stress out about little things.
dont do stupid things like drink. youve got the whole of your life for that.
it's not worth it.
dont be pressured to do what you dont want to.
trust your mum, they do know whats best for the most part. they are just looking out for you :)
hmmmmmm what else?
i wish i knew a while ago that just trust your gut instincts, theyre ALWAYS right.
think about things fully before you do it.
and remember, whatever is meant to be will be. fate is awesome :)
i think thats it :)
Life sucks, no matter who you are or what you have. So, do not feel that you are unfairly put upon, or that your life could be better if only you had this or that. Rich people hate their lives as much as the rest of us. The only way to combat this problem is to live by design, not chance. Don't wait for your ship to come in, because it will leave you sitting on the dock until you die. If you want anything, you have to get up and make it happen. Your life will be a good as you make it, but remember, life still sucks. You will never come to a point that you cannot find anything to whine about. You must simply choose not to whine.
Go on get your College education even if you have to claw your way through by your fingernails..
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If you have any thoughts about joining the service darn sure get your B.S. degree first and take ROTC, in some form so you can go in as an officer.
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Know I am going to get thumbs down from the guys for this one:
Don't do it just because all your friends are doing it.
Guys go out with easy girls for one reason and it ain't marriage and kids.
And if a guy is telling you he loves but blah, blah blah just remember we were using those same lines in girls when I was a teenager to get girls in bed with us.
Steer clear of brown nosers, back stabbers and suck a$$es: They aren't your friends. They'll knife you in the back in a heart beat.
live life like you have no tomorrow, dont have regrets, dont worry about what will happen if.... just do it and have fun. you can only experiment whe you are the age you are, when you grow up you will have a job to worry about and too many risk factors to go with it..,
ok what i think u should do is chill. ur sixteen dnt worry about jobs focus on school. oh nd get involved in it like sports nd stuff. k hangout with friends and meet new ones. dnt get caught up in a relationship cus no matter what iits most likely gonna end. so stay single and keep them boyz wanting some haha. nd if ur a virgin dnt let sum dickweed get in ur pants unless u know for a fact he's the one. dnt get fooled. umm if u wanna kno more let me kno kk
I think about these things throughout my daily life, no matter what it is these these always apply.
';God will never give you anything you cant handle';.
';Live, Love, Laugh';
Don't regret anything because at the time its what you wanted.
You cant live your life without making mistakes, remember them, learn from them and apply them in your future.
Be independent, don't wait for things to happen, make them happen for yourself.
You are responsible for your happiness no one else so don't let people steal your joy.
Don't be afraid of life but use caution when necessary.
Follow your instincts and watch for red flags.
Question everything, including authority.
Don't believe everything you hear.
Let the people you love know that you love them.
Be happy with yourself before you become attached to another.
Do the right thing.
Life.
it goes on.
people die, people cry. babies are born and fortune 500 companies fail.
Everyday is a gift, even if it sucks @ss.
dont make promises you cant keep. they'll haunt you in the end.
no one is perfect, so give them a second chance. forgive but dont forget. so you wont be mistreated. if someone isnt treating you right, seperate yourself from that person.
surround yourself with the ones you love. and always be laughing.
I fired someone today and they took it badly, do you have any advice?
It was a girl in my restaurant. I caught her giving away an item to her friends, and the owner decided to fire her on my report. She cried and bawled so badly and made a scene. I've never felt so horrible in my life. There was no doubt. As a manager, I had to report her, or the theft would've continued.
How do you deal with situations like this.I fired someone today and they took it badly, do you have any advice?
She was stealing, she should have known better. She was crying because she felt like a great injustice was done to her even though she knew she was guilty. Its good that she was fired, because she was stealing, and because this makes the rest of the employees fearful of doing the same thing.I fired someone today and they took it badly, do you have any advice?
Do not Take it Personal, Its Business, One of the harder finer points on being a Good Supervisor, Take it in Stride there man
She was in the wrong. She only screamed so loudly because she was embarrassed to be caught or didn't think she did wrong.
Stealing is wrong, doesn't matter where it happens.
Stealing from a company hurts you! Sure your not the CEO with the golden parachute, your the guy/gal that feels the cutbacks from corporate waste.
Corporate waste is the number one reason I get into arguments with living the party line about unions. Dont' get me wrong (blue collar family on the northwest side of Chicago.. I get unions). What ticks me off is the waste. You see the ruination of everything unions stood for. They stood for the everyman - fair days work - fair days wage. Today they are not like that... It's not my job is basically a union employee war cry. Or how about the leaners club... the 7 supervisors to 1 worker. I could go on %26amp; on.
This corporate waste leads to offshoring. If Ford charges $46 an hr for an employee %26amp; of those employees you have 7 leaners, %26amp; 4 not my jobs, %26amp; the rest are only moving as productively as fast as a turtle %26amp; anyone who moves faster %26amp; more productively is chastised %26amp; the bad guy... = who loses?
America loses. Anyone visiting Detroit can see the bombed out effect of business leaving enmass. What about the daily reports of 100's, 1000's of jobs going overseas?
We chased them off. Not only were we complacent in our lack of quality marketing (how exactly did toyota become such a quality product... answer goes to the actual quality %26amp; screaming from the mountain of the quality.).
We also keep the fat. Not only are we a physically obese country, we tend to keep the fat in our work places. I don't think anyone of us can not think of a single person in their current or past work place who had the entire ';not my job'; mentality %26amp; wouldn't budge, move, ect beyond taking a paycheck at the end of the week. In fact I am willing to bet that that same person confounded you as to what exactly they accomplished to achieve that paycheck.
Not to give you a giant headache, but to help you feel better about your decision.
You did what you had to do, or else you would have been in trouble. I would look at it this way: she put herself in that position and it's her fault she got fired. She knew what she was doing was wrong. It's ok to feel upset about it, but you did the right thing. Hopefully, she'll learn from her mistake.
You did nothing wrong and you did absolutely the right thing.
She was upset because she was caught. She wasn't crying because she was feeling guilty.
You did the right thing and quite possibly saved your own job. No employee stealing is worth keeping around.
You did the right thing and keep on doing what you are doing and good will come to you!
You can not take it persona. I know it is hard not to do so, but this is your job. I work in H%26amp;R and think about it this way. What if this would have been a test to your loyalty to the company, if the girl had been asked to set a situation up and see if you would report it and you didnt then you would have been fired. You always have to look at it as being their job or yours, who's is more important? I terminate on average 20 employees a month, and yes some of them are hard to handle, infact some of them are darn right heart breaking, but the fact is that is what I am there to do. I am there to make the best decisions for my company, and at the end of the day I know that I have done my job and made my company better for it. It is never easy to fire someone but it will come to you, and for just the fact that you care shows that you are a great manager!
Move on. She stole, received the consequence, done. You are in a position where you can't be every ones friend. If you take your job seriously you'll have to come to terms with the fact that this won't be your last time firing someone. Some people get pissed when they're fired others just accept it and especially girls who like to pull the girly, how could you be so cruel tears
You have to stay professional and stand firm. You did the right thing and it will show her what can happen when she properly doesn't do a job. She will be fine and now she knows life takes social skills. Self control is a sign of maturity. She made a scene because she isn't mature. Don't take her problem and make it yours. You don't deserve to feel bad in this situation.
Just move on.You did your job. She'll find a job again.
was she going to pay for it later? if not then u did the right thing. i would feel bad too but just keep telling yourself that its business...better her than you!
You didn't do anything. You did what you had to do and the girl did what she did. Simple as that.
Remain professional...it obviously would make you feel bad as a person to have this employee cry so badly when you terminated her, however, keep in mind she brought it on herself by giving away things. If you are in a managerial position it comes with the territory to have to sometimes fire people and you cannot allow your emotions to show.
Of course you are going to feel bad. You are a human being with compassion,but this girl was stealing and she knew that it was wrong. Its her own fault that she was fired not yours. You did the right thing. Just know that sometimes we all feel sorry for someone that has done something wrong and got caught. Hopefully she has learned a very valuable lesson.
You're fine. You did your job she didn't do hers.
Your job as a manager is to protect the owners assets. You can't feel bad about doing your job. If she broke company policy, then it's not your problem.
You shrug it off and get on with your job. Crying and bawling and making a scene huh? She was probably distracting you from looking in her bag at other stuff she stole. Once a thief.......
Well, first of all, you did the right thing by reporting her. As the manager, you're responsible for the other employees. Not doing your job would be just as bad as the initial problem (her theft).
Keep reminding yourself of that whenever this whole situation starts to get to you. Just keep thinking, ';I did the right thing.'; It'll help.
This might be a good time for you to focus on what the people who are still working there are doing properly. Some genuine, earned praise can really cheer up the work environment and make everybody feel a little better about this whole thing.
laugh out at them and say NOW LET THIS BE A LESSON TO ALL OF YA
You handled it prefectly. Basically she was stealing and you did your job by reporting it. if she would've been doing her job she wouldn't have had time to do this. It's called work for a reason. I am proud that you stood up and did the right thing. Few people do that these days
The owner gets the last say. He/she could have just given the girl a warning, but maybe he/she knew something more, and this girl was doing something else. Being fired sucks, but she should have been clear about the rules, or she could have offered to pay for that item from her paycheck.
I would have looked the other way and ignored it, its not like she was stealing money
I was a manager for over 20 years. Its never easy to fire anyone. The first one is always the hardest, or was it the second? or third? or eleventh?
It'll never be easy.
How do you deal with situations like this.I fired someone today and they took it badly, do you have any advice?
She was stealing, she should have known better. She was crying because she felt like a great injustice was done to her even though she knew she was guilty. Its good that she was fired, because she was stealing, and because this makes the rest of the employees fearful of doing the same thing.I fired someone today and they took it badly, do you have any advice?
Do not Take it Personal, Its Business, One of the harder finer points on being a Good Supervisor, Take it in Stride there man
She was in the wrong. She only screamed so loudly because she was embarrassed to be caught or didn't think she did wrong.
Stealing is wrong, doesn't matter where it happens.
Stealing from a company hurts you! Sure your not the CEO with the golden parachute, your the guy/gal that feels the cutbacks from corporate waste.
Corporate waste is the number one reason I get into arguments with living the party line about unions. Dont' get me wrong (blue collar family on the northwest side of Chicago.. I get unions). What ticks me off is the waste. You see the ruination of everything unions stood for. They stood for the everyman - fair days work - fair days wage. Today they are not like that... It's not my job is basically a union employee war cry. Or how about the leaners club... the 7 supervisors to 1 worker. I could go on %26amp; on.
This corporate waste leads to offshoring. If Ford charges $46 an hr for an employee %26amp; of those employees you have 7 leaners, %26amp; 4 not my jobs, %26amp; the rest are only moving as productively as fast as a turtle %26amp; anyone who moves faster %26amp; more productively is chastised %26amp; the bad guy... = who loses?
America loses. Anyone visiting Detroit can see the bombed out effect of business leaving enmass. What about the daily reports of 100's, 1000's of jobs going overseas?
We chased them off. Not only were we complacent in our lack of quality marketing (how exactly did toyota become such a quality product... answer goes to the actual quality %26amp; screaming from the mountain of the quality.).
We also keep the fat. Not only are we a physically obese country, we tend to keep the fat in our work places. I don't think anyone of us can not think of a single person in their current or past work place who had the entire ';not my job'; mentality %26amp; wouldn't budge, move, ect beyond taking a paycheck at the end of the week. In fact I am willing to bet that that same person confounded you as to what exactly they accomplished to achieve that paycheck.
Not to give you a giant headache, but to help you feel better about your decision.
You did what you had to do, or else you would have been in trouble. I would look at it this way: she put herself in that position and it's her fault she got fired. She knew what she was doing was wrong. It's ok to feel upset about it, but you did the right thing. Hopefully, she'll learn from her mistake.
You did nothing wrong and you did absolutely the right thing.
She was upset because she was caught. She wasn't crying because she was feeling guilty.
You did the right thing and quite possibly saved your own job. No employee stealing is worth keeping around.
You did the right thing and keep on doing what you are doing and good will come to you!
You can not take it persona. I know it is hard not to do so, but this is your job. I work in H%26amp;R and think about it this way. What if this would have been a test to your loyalty to the company, if the girl had been asked to set a situation up and see if you would report it and you didnt then you would have been fired. You always have to look at it as being their job or yours, who's is more important? I terminate on average 20 employees a month, and yes some of them are hard to handle, infact some of them are darn right heart breaking, but the fact is that is what I am there to do. I am there to make the best decisions for my company, and at the end of the day I know that I have done my job and made my company better for it. It is never easy to fire someone but it will come to you, and for just the fact that you care shows that you are a great manager!
Move on. She stole, received the consequence, done. You are in a position where you can't be every ones friend. If you take your job seriously you'll have to come to terms with the fact that this won't be your last time firing someone. Some people get pissed when they're fired others just accept it and especially girls who like to pull the girly, how could you be so cruel tears
You have to stay professional and stand firm. You did the right thing and it will show her what can happen when she properly doesn't do a job. She will be fine and now she knows life takes social skills. Self control is a sign of maturity. She made a scene because she isn't mature. Don't take her problem and make it yours. You don't deserve to feel bad in this situation.
Just move on.You did your job. She'll find a job again.
was she going to pay for it later? if not then u did the right thing. i would feel bad too but just keep telling yourself that its business...better her than you!
You didn't do anything. You did what you had to do and the girl did what she did. Simple as that.
Remain professional...it obviously would make you feel bad as a person to have this employee cry so badly when you terminated her, however, keep in mind she brought it on herself by giving away things. If you are in a managerial position it comes with the territory to have to sometimes fire people and you cannot allow your emotions to show.
Of course you are going to feel bad. You are a human being with compassion,but this girl was stealing and she knew that it was wrong. Its her own fault that she was fired not yours. You did the right thing. Just know that sometimes we all feel sorry for someone that has done something wrong and got caught. Hopefully she has learned a very valuable lesson.
You're fine. You did your job she didn't do hers.
Your job as a manager is to protect the owners assets. You can't feel bad about doing your job. If she broke company policy, then it's not your problem.
You shrug it off and get on with your job. Crying and bawling and making a scene huh? She was probably distracting you from looking in her bag at other stuff she stole. Once a thief.......
Well, first of all, you did the right thing by reporting her. As the manager, you're responsible for the other employees. Not doing your job would be just as bad as the initial problem (her theft).
Keep reminding yourself of that whenever this whole situation starts to get to you. Just keep thinking, ';I did the right thing.'; It'll help.
This might be a good time for you to focus on what the people who are still working there are doing properly. Some genuine, earned praise can really cheer up the work environment and make everybody feel a little better about this whole thing.
laugh out at them and say NOW LET THIS BE A LESSON TO ALL OF YA
You handled it prefectly. Basically she was stealing and you did your job by reporting it. if she would've been doing her job she wouldn't have had time to do this. It's called work for a reason. I am proud that you stood up and did the right thing. Few people do that these days
The owner gets the last say. He/she could have just given the girl a warning, but maybe he/she knew something more, and this girl was doing something else. Being fired sucks, but she should have been clear about the rules, or she could have offered to pay for that item from her paycheck.
I would have looked the other way and ignored it, its not like she was stealing money
I was a manager for over 20 years. Its never easy to fire anyone. The first one is always the hardest, or was it the second? or third? or eleventh?
It'll never be easy.
Can you give me some advice for going to a new school next year? (I'll be a 9th grader)?
I have gone to one Lutheran school all my life until now. None of my friends or people I know are going to my high school next year, which is also private. Well ok, my 16 year old sister goes there. Any advice to making new friends and stuff? thanks!Can you give me some advice for going to a new school next year? (I'll be a 9th grader)?
OMG SAME HERE! next year i am going to a school and i will be in 9th grade too! None of my friends are going because there parents wont let them because they say it is a bad school but whatev. So i am going all by myself to a new school not to mention first year of highschool. We both have to admit it is going to be a little scary but we got to be ourselves. My plan is when i get there i will sit beside some people in homeroom and start to introduce myself and get to know others, then i will meet there friends. Also maybe your sister can introduce you to some people and you can ask her for advice on were classes are and stuff, cause i think i am going to get lost in my school haha.
so basically lets just go in confident and proud of who we are. First thing to do is talk to someone dont sit alone in a corner afraid to socialize, talk to people and then you will make friends in no time, after that were gonna be all set!Can you give me some advice for going to a new school next year? (I'll be a 9th grader)?
Just be yourself. Obviously you've heard that before. but since its a new school, it'll be best to set the way you want people to see you as from the very start. Be nice and kind to every one, check out the environment (the little groups, who goes out with who, etc) Be sure to be very careful with who you tell what. Its a new school and everyone will be a stranger for a while, so if on the first day you see that you already don't like someone, it'll be best to keep that to yourself for a while. Also, don't get involved in previous drama. If you make 2 new friends that have had problems before, don't choose sides and don't get involved. You want to be liked for the next 4 years, not hated. But like i said, remember to be yourself.
Hope that helped :)
dont physc yourself out, its not as difficult as you think
my freshmen year i went to a school in a new state where i didnt know anything, and all the rules were so much stricter than what i was use to.
you will get use to it, but you wont like it.
freshmen year can be a living h311,
OMG SAME HERE! next year i am going to a school and i will be in 9th grade too! None of my friends are going because there parents wont let them because they say it is a bad school but whatev. So i am going all by myself to a new school not to mention first year of highschool. We both have to admit it is going to be a little scary but we got to be ourselves. My plan is when i get there i will sit beside some people in homeroom and start to introduce myself and get to know others, then i will meet there friends. Also maybe your sister can introduce you to some people and you can ask her for advice on were classes are and stuff, cause i think i am going to get lost in my school haha.
so basically lets just go in confident and proud of who we are. First thing to do is talk to someone dont sit alone in a corner afraid to socialize, talk to people and then you will make friends in no time, after that were gonna be all set!Can you give me some advice for going to a new school next year? (I'll be a 9th grader)?
Just be yourself. Obviously you've heard that before. but since its a new school, it'll be best to set the way you want people to see you as from the very start. Be nice and kind to every one, check out the environment (the little groups, who goes out with who, etc) Be sure to be very careful with who you tell what. Its a new school and everyone will be a stranger for a while, so if on the first day you see that you already don't like someone, it'll be best to keep that to yourself for a while. Also, don't get involved in previous drama. If you make 2 new friends that have had problems before, don't choose sides and don't get involved. You want to be liked for the next 4 years, not hated. But like i said, remember to be yourself.
Hope that helped :)
dont physc yourself out, its not as difficult as you think
my freshmen year i went to a school in a new state where i didnt know anything, and all the rules were so much stricter than what i was use to.
you will get use to it, but you wont like it.
freshmen year can be a living h311,
Who would you rather take advice from - Dr. Seuss, Dr. Dre, Dr. Pepper or Dr. Phil?
This question is inspired by Google's first 4 suggestions when you start to type Dr. ___ .Who would you rather take advice from - Dr. Seuss, Dr. Dre, Dr. Pepper or Dr. Phil?
Dr. SeussWho would you rather take advice from - Dr. Seuss, Dr. Dre, Dr. Pepper or Dr. Phil?
dr. seuss, seems to be the most level headed, dignified and wise of the bunch.
i will not eat them sam i am. i will not eat green eggs and ham.
Depends on the problem and/or situation
Dr. Pepper!
Dr seuss!
everything makes more sense when it rhymes xD
Dr. Pepper.
Im thirsty
Dr. Seuss.
Out of the four, Dr. Seuss has consistently given the best advice so far.
Dr. Pepper and his 23 flavors.
PH. D Owl the R%26amp;S regular
Dr. Pepper for sure.
Depends on the problem.
Seuss. He gave pretty good advice in his books.
Dr Seuss, of course.
Dr. Phil no doubt
Dr. Phil at least he is a Christian
None of the above... Dr Who for me.. you can't beat a timelord.
Dr. Feel Good.
Google needs Dr Love
DR.GOD
DR. JESUS
DR.HOLY SPIRIT
These are the only Doctors I Doctor with. [smiles]
Dr. SeussWho would you rather take advice from - Dr. Seuss, Dr. Dre, Dr. Pepper or Dr. Phil?
dr. seuss, seems to be the most level headed, dignified and wise of the bunch.
i will not eat them sam i am. i will not eat green eggs and ham.
Depends on the problem and/or situation
Dr. Pepper!
Dr seuss!
everything makes more sense when it rhymes xD
Dr. Pepper.
Im thirsty
Dr. Seuss.
Out of the four, Dr. Seuss has consistently given the best advice so far.
Dr. Pepper and his 23 flavors.
PH. D Owl the R%26amp;S regular
Dr. Pepper for sure.
Depends on the problem.
Seuss. He gave pretty good advice in his books.
Dr Seuss, of course.
Dr. Phil no doubt
Dr. Phil at least he is a Christian
None of the above... Dr Who for me.. you can't beat a timelord.
Dr. Feel Good.
Google needs Dr Love
DR.GOD
DR. JESUS
DR.HOLY SPIRIT
These are the only Doctors I Doctor with. [smiles]
It's generally considered good advice that you shouldn't let other people tell you what to think (or act)
Why should it be any different with religous beliefs?It's generally considered good advice that you shouldn't let other people tell you what to think (or act)
I think you are correct.It's generally considered good advice that you shouldn't let other people tell you what to think (or act)
agreed, discover your path on your own.
as a Christian, though, we pray that path will someday lead you to God.
All humans have a natural resentment about being told what to do. It comes from our parents having to supervise us constantly when we are young. Then we have to learn to think for ourselves to survive in the World. This creates a struggle.
However, many never get over this resentment. And they cannot take the slightest suggestion or request without acting like they are being told what to do. That is immature.
You have to determine for yourself where you are in regard to this.
I don't agree with that statement actually. I think it is wisdom to learn from others around you that have been thru life's lessons and learned a thing or two. It's always better to take advice than to think that you're so much smarter than all the people who have already been down the road you're on.
My religion doesn't tell me what to do,but it does advise me of the lessons learned by others so that if I am wise, I can avoid the pitfalls.
Where would society be if no one listened to what had been learned by previous generations? We'd be inventing the wheel every 30 years. It is stupid to think that there is nothing to be learned from those who have gone before us.
How many of all the things you know are really yours ? What does generally mean ?
It shouldn't, but it's nice to be with people who share your beliefs and so some accept being told what to think and belief so they can be in the company of like minded persons.
I agree!
I think it's very important for one to come up with their personal spirituality on their own. It's really the only way to go unless your willing to compromise who you really are.
Who's forcing you? Do with your life as you wish. Christians care about your relationship with God, but you have the power not to listen to them.
Agreed...unfortunately, there are those that are required by their faith/religion to try to convert folks to their view(s) however delusional they may be. PEACE!
Doesn't that advice tell you not to listen to that advice?
Uh, that is a funny paradox!
The premise is missing support. Evidence against such being generally accepted as good advice: school systems, laws, legal standards
As long as you follow the laws of the land. Thank God I live in a FREE country!
I think you are correct.It's generally considered good advice that you shouldn't let other people tell you what to think (or act)
agreed, discover your path on your own.
as a Christian, though, we pray that path will someday lead you to God.
All humans have a natural resentment about being told what to do. It comes from our parents having to supervise us constantly when we are young. Then we have to learn to think for ourselves to survive in the World. This creates a struggle.
However, many never get over this resentment. And they cannot take the slightest suggestion or request without acting like they are being told what to do. That is immature.
You have to determine for yourself where you are in regard to this.
I don't agree with that statement actually. I think it is wisdom to learn from others around you that have been thru life's lessons and learned a thing or two. It's always better to take advice than to think that you're so much smarter than all the people who have already been down the road you're on.
My religion doesn't tell me what to do,but it does advise me of the lessons learned by others so that if I am wise, I can avoid the pitfalls.
Where would society be if no one listened to what had been learned by previous generations? We'd be inventing the wheel every 30 years. It is stupid to think that there is nothing to be learned from those who have gone before us.
How many of all the things you know are really yours ? What does generally mean ?
It shouldn't, but it's nice to be with people who share your beliefs and so some accept being told what to think and belief so they can be in the company of like minded persons.
I agree!
I think it's very important for one to come up with their personal spirituality on their own. It's really the only way to go unless your willing to compromise who you really are.
Who's forcing you? Do with your life as you wish. Christians care about your relationship with God, but you have the power not to listen to them.
Agreed...unfortunately, there are those that are required by their faith/religion to try to convert folks to their view(s) however delusional they may be. PEACE!
Doesn't that advice tell you not to listen to that advice?
Uh, that is a funny paradox!
The premise is missing support. Evidence against such being generally accepted as good advice: school systems, laws, legal standards
As long as you follow the laws of the land. Thank God I live in a FREE country!
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